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Welcome to The Sexual Wholeness Revival, a Christian marriage podcast that’s changing the conversation about sex. For too long, faith-filled couples have wrestled with confusion, shame, and pressure around sexual intimacy. It’s time for honesty, understanding, and hope.
Hosted by Mary Whitman Ortiz, Certified Relationship Coach and Christian Sex Educator, and Katieann Browning, Senior Pastor, this podcast helps couples rediscover God’s original design for sex—what we call the GIFTS of intimacy: Good, Intimate, Fierce, Timeless, and Sacred. Each episode offers real conversations, biblical wisdom, and practical tools to help you build deeper connection to enjoy your marriage.
Whether you’re recovering from sexual disconnection, navigating mismatched desire, or simply longing to experience more joy and unity with your spouse, this show is a safe, grace-filled space to learn and grow. You’ll hear insights from Scripture, real couples’ stories, and input from trusted Christian leaders who are passionate about restoring wholeness in this vital area of life.
If you’ve ever wondered, “Did God really create sex to be this good?” — the answer is a resounding yes. Join the revival and discover what it means to embrace sexual wholeness in your heart, your marriage, and your faith walk. Subscribe now and start your journey toward healing, freedom, and holy delight in the gift of intimacy.
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This episode tackles the common struggle in married intimacy where wives desire closeness before engaging in sex, while husbands want sex to feel close. The discussion centers on understanding and validating the reasons women might not feel motivated for sex and offers actionable insights for Christian wives to empower their perspective towards sex. Through personal anecdotes, scientific insights, and spiritual parallels, Mary and Katieann seek to bridge the gap in sexual needs between spouses. Topics include the impact of hormones, stress, past beliefs, and the importance of communication and safety in a marital relationship.
TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 Welcome and Introduction
00:06 Understanding the Struggle in Marriage
01:56 Empowering Christian Wives
06:19 The Role of Hormones and Life Stages
07:16 Addressing Emotional and Mental Barriers
13:19 The Benefits of Sex in Marriage
22:46 Choosing Sex Even When You Don't Feel It
27:22 Final Thoughts and Next Episode Preview
TAKEAWAYS:
- Discover how low desire can be a signal and not a sentence.
Understand why leading with action often creates the emotional connection you’re waiting for. - Learn how choosing intimacy by faith allows feelings to catch up naturally. Recognize how responsive desire works and why it’s normal for many wives.
Experience sex as healing, bonding, and sacred when it’s chosen safely and intentionally.
5 Reasons you can choose sex even when you're not feeling it.
- God, not your spouse, is your source of ultimate identity and security.
- You already walk by faith in many areas. You can include sexual intimacy, by faith.
- You have godly motivation to walk in love, not pressure because you believe He has your best in mind.
- You know spontaneous desire isn’t normal for many women. The media lied about that.
- You understand responsive desire often blooms after engagement begins. You start with action, and the feeling follows.
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This podcast is designed for informational purposes only. Any and all actions or consequences from the podcast are the sole responsibility of the podcast audience participant. Information should not be seen as medical or mental health advice, and is not meant to take the place of seeing licensed health professionals.
Special thanks to Suzanna Storey of Saphron Music for “Shape Shifter”, on her Identity Crisis album.
Tuesday Dec 30, 2025
Tuesday Dec 30, 2025
In this episode of the Sexual Wholeness Revival Podcast, Mary and Katieann discuss the challenges couples face in maintaining intimacy, especially during busy times like the holidays. They share personal anecdotes and a practical checklist to help couples sustain healthy intimacy habits. Key points include the importance of communication about sex, being aware of disconnection, having a proactive plan for intimacy, taking personal responsibility in the relationship, and choosing God's way for a shame-free, joyous connection. Special emphasis is laid on the G.I.F.T.S. acronym: Good, Intimate, Fierce, Timeless, Sacred as a framework for sexual wholeness.
TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 Introduction and Holiday Stress
00:53 The Importance of Intimacy
02:07 Proactive Intimacy Habits
03:19 Checklist for Healthy Intimacy
03:54 A Story About Baking and Intimacy
08:47 Talking About Sex
11:08 Addressing Disconnection
14:55 Planning for Intimacy
20:10 Being Powerful in Your Relationship
22:43 Choosing God's Way
26:18 Conclusion and Resources
TAKEAWAYS:
- Discover how talking about sex, even when it’s awkward leads to more connection.
- Understand why noticing and addressing disconnection is a sign of relational health.
- Learn how having a plan for intimacy sustains connection through busy seasons.
- Recognize how being responsible and proactive strengthens your entire relationship.
- Experience shame-free and joy-filled sex, mess-ups and all, when you choose God’s way.
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FREE RESOURCE:
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This podcast is designed for informational purposes only. Any and all actions or consequences from the podcast are the sole responsibility of the podcast audience participant. Information should not be seen as medical or mental health advice, and is not meant to take the place of seeing licensed health professionals.
Special thanks to Suzanna Storey of Saphron Music for “Shape Shifter”, on her Identity Crisis album.
Tuesday Dec 23, 2025
Tuesday Dec 23, 2025
In this episode of the Sexual Wholeness Revival Podcast, Mary and Katieann discuss the common misconceptions about sex and intimacy that often plague Christians. They share personal stories and practical steps to unbind from these lies and replace them with biblical truths. The episode includes a live activation segment, underscoring the importance of hope, transformation, and choosing God's truths over deep-seated lies. Tools such as a quiz to identify intimacy types and a simple prayer for aligning with divine truth are also provided to help couples achieve a healthier, more fulfilled intimate life.
TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 Welcome to the Sexual Wholeness Revival Podcast
01:33 Understanding Hopelessness in Marital Intimacy
02:52 Personal Story: Overcoming Misconceptions About Sex
05:28 The Lie Exchange Process: Steps to Freedom
08:05 Common Lies Men Believe About Sex
16:53 Common Lies Women Believe About Sex
20:36 Choosing God's Truth Over Lies
24:55 Practical Steps to Embrace God's Truth
25:32 Conclusion and Resources for Further Help
TAKEAWAYS:
- Discover the quiet lies men and women believe about sex about worth, obligation, desire, performance, and rejection, and how they subtly undermine intimacy and trust.
- Understand how pain and unmet expectations open the door to false beliefs, and why recognizing their emotional cost is the first step toward healing.
- Learn how to release shame patterns and repent of agreement with lies, gaining clarity about how false beliefs shape avoidance, pressure, or disconnection.
- Experience the Truth-for-Lie Exchange, realigning your heart with what God says about sex, desire, identity, and mutuality.
- Leave with practical activation steps to restore intimacy, rebuild safety, and pursue a freer, God-centered sexual connection rooted in truth.
FREE RESOURCE:
Discover your Intimacy Type with a free quiz.
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This podcast is designed for informational purposes only. Any and all actions or consequences from the podcast are the sole responsibility of the podcast audience participant. Information should not be seen as medical or mental health advice, and is not meant to take the place of seeing licensed health professionals.
Special thanks to Suzanna Storey of Saphron Music for “Shape Shifter”, on her Identity Crisis album.
Tuesday Dec 16, 2025
Tuesday Dec 16, 2025
In this episode, Mary and Katieann tackle the often difficult and nuanced topic of sex within Christian marriages, focusing on how it can sometimes feel selfish and manipulative. They discuss the misuse of scripture for selfish gains, the difference between ignorance and deliberate misuse, and highlight the true design of sexual intimacy as intended by God. Personal stories and examples are shared to illustrate the transformations that can occur when couples understand and embrace the sacredness of their sexual relationship. Listeners are encouraged to realign with God's plan for a deeply satisfying and sacred intimacy in their marriages.
TAKEAWAYS:
- Discover why sex can feel selfish or manipulative in Christian marriage—especially when Scripture has been misused—and how to discern the difference between ignorance and intentional harm.
- Learn what God actually designed sexual intimacy to be: a sacred, mutual, joy-filled exchange that honors both husband and wife.
- See how sacredness is perfect love that removes “fear and punishment” and transforms the entire emotional and spiritual atmosphere of intimacy.
- Hear real-life stories of couples who moved from pressure and obligation to healing, connection, and a renewed sense of closeness in their sexual relationship.
- Get practical steps for realigning with God’s plan so sex becomes a place of emotional closeness, spiritual unity, and a deeper kind of love—not pressure or fear.
TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 Introduction and Topic Overview
00:23 Christian Misuse of Scripture in Marriage
02:30 The Concept of Sacred and Holy Sex
02:48 Client Stories and Common Issues
03:36 Scriptural Misinterpretations and Their Impact
06:49 Selfishness vs. Sacredness in Intimacy
08:44 The Role of Self-Control in Sacred Intimacy
10:34 Understanding God's Design for Sexual Intimacy
22:38 Personal Experiences and Testimonies
26:45 Conclusion and Encouragement
FREE RESOURCE:
Sex and intimacy can be challenging topics for Christians to address, yet they are sacred gifts designed by God for marriage. In this insightful e-book, discover how to embrace God’s G.I.F.T. framework for sexual intimacy and see it as a meaningful blessing for husbands and wives.
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DISCLAIMER:
This podcast is designed for informational purposes only. Any and all actions or consequences from the podcast are the sole responsibility of the podcast audience participant. Information should not be seen as medical or mental health advice, and is not meant to take the place of seeing licensed health professionals.
Special thanks to Suzanna Storey of Saphron Music for “Shape Shifter”, on her Identity Crisis album.
Tuesday Dec 09, 2025
Tuesday Dec 09, 2025
In this episode, Mary and Katieann discuss how couples can navigate the often challenging topic of sexual differences in marriage.
They emphasize the inherent differences in expectations and desires between spouses and highlight the importance of conflict as an opportunity for growth.
Included are personal stories of Mary’s first marriage influenced by pornography, and Katieann’s choice to get healthy views on sex to pass down to her children.
The conversation covers the following key points: understanding varying expectations in sex, handling conflict constructively, recognizing the deeper issues behind sexual dissatisfaction, the significance of communication, and practical tips for having difficult conversations on sex and intimacy.
The goal is to help couples build a deeper connection and work towards a healthier sexual relationship.
TAKEAWAYS:
- Discover why sexual differences between spouses are natural and how they often reveal deeper opportunities for connection rather than problems.
- Learn how conflict around sex isn’t time to build a wall but a signal to see unmet emotional, relational, or spiritual needs.
- Hear why mismatched expectations aren’t a failure but a chance to understand each other more deeply and grow closer.
- Unpack how unspoken desires, past experiences, and societal or religious messages shape intimacy struggles and how to reframe them together.
- Get practical tools to have courageous conversations about sex, navigate conflict constructively, and transform tension into deeper closeness.
TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 Introduction and Setting Expectations
01:04 Understanding Conflict in Marriage
03:03 Personal Story and Realizations
05:16 Common Issues and Misunderstandings
07:59 Dealing with Pain and Rejection
13:31 Encouragement and Practical Tips
24:31 Conclusion and Resources
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This podcast is designed for informational purposes only. Any and all actions or consequences from the podcast are the sole responsibility of the podcast audience participant. Information should not be seen as medical or mental health advice, and is not meant to take the place of seeing licensed health professionals.
Special thanks to Suzanna Storey of Saphron Music for “Shape Shifter”, on her Identity Crisis album.
Tuesday Dec 02, 2025
Tuesday Dec 02, 2025
In this episode of the Sexual Wholeness Revival Podcast, hosts Mary and Katieann discuss the complex dynamics of sex within marriage, contrasting the experiences and misconceptions of single and married women. They delve into the mental, emotional, and physical barriers that often prevent women from fully engaging in married sex. Drawing parallels to their personal experiences, such as Mary's jet skiing hobby, they explore how excuses and past pains can hinder sexual intimacy. They further address issues like emotional disconnect, shame, and differing sex drives. Finally, they provide practical advice on overcoming these barriers, emphasizing the importance of trust, communication, and understanding in fostering a healthy and fulfilling sexual relationship within marriage.
Takeaways:
- Discover why so many wives feel eager for sex before marriage—but hesitant afterward—and what’s really happening beneath the surface.
- Learn how mental load, emotional disconnection, and unspoken needs quietly shut down desire (even when you genuinely love your husband).
- Hear why avoidance isn’t a “libido problem” at all—but a signal pointing to deeper relational, emotional, or spiritual needs.
- Unpack how shame, past messages, and mismatched expectations shape a woman’s internal narrative about sex—and how to rewrite it.
- Get practical tools to move past mental blocks, reconnect with your body and your spouse, and rediscover intimacy as the good, God-designed gift it truly is.
Timestamps:
00:00 Welcome to the Sexual Wholeness Revival Podcast
01:00 The Unexpected Challenges Married Women Face
02:16 Jet Skiing and Sex: An Unusual Analogy
05:00 Reasons for Hesitation Towards Sex
05:40 The Impact of Emotional and Mental Fatigue
09:09 Dealing with Shame and Taboo
12:34 Understanding Frequency Differences
13:56 The Importance of Communication in Marriage
15:25 Choosing to Overcome Excuses
20:18 Practical Tips for Embracing Intimacy
22:24 The Benefits of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage
23:46 Take the Intimacy Quiz
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DISCLAIMER:
This podcast is designed for informational purposes only. Any and all actions or consequences from the podcast are the sole responsibility of the podcast audience participant. Information should not be seen as medical or mental health advice, and is not meant to take the place of seeing licensed health professionals.
Special thanks to Suzanna Storey of Saphron Music for “Shape Shifter”, on her Identity Crisis album.
Wednesday Nov 26, 2025
Wednesday Nov 26, 2025
In this episode of the Sexual Wholeness Revival Podcast, hosts Mary and Katieann discuss one of the most challenging yet crucial aspects of marriage: communicating about sex. They explore the reasons why many couples struggle with this conversation, the impact of trust and emotional safety, and share personal stories and practical steps to foster open and honest dialogue. Mary shares her own wedding night experience, highlighting the importance of vulnerability and trust in overcoming difficulties. They also delve into the Hebrew concept of 'ya-da,' emphasizing the profound connection it signifies. Offering actionable steps and an acronym for understanding the gifts of God's design for sex in marriage, this episode aims to equip couples with tools to achieve deeper intimacy and wholeness in their relationships.
Takeaways:
Understand why talking about sex feels so hard—and how fear, silence, and past messages shape the way couples show up in intimacy.
See how trust and emotional safety become the real foundation for sexual connection—even more than technique, desire, or timing.
Hear Mary’s vulnerable wedding-night story and discover why honest conversation is often the turning point toward healing and wholeness.
Explore the Hebrew idea of ya-da—being fully known—and how it redefines intimacy as a sacred, whole-person experience.
Walk away with practical steps and a simple acronym to start healthier conversations, build safety, and move toward God’s design for deeper intimacy.
Timestamps:
00:00 Welcome to the Sexual Wholeness Revival Podcast
00:56 The Most Common Problem in Marriage
02:27 Mary's Personal Story: Overcoming Pain
05:54 The Importance of Trust in Intimacy
09:47 Addressing Shame and Fear in Marriage
19:02 Practical Steps to Build Trust and Intimacy
22:16 G.I.F.T.S: God's Design for Sex in Marriage
24:19 Closing Thoughts and Encouragement
Free E-Book! God’s Gift to Marriage
Sex and intimacy can be challenging topics for Christians to address, yet they are sacred gifts designed by God for marriage. In this insightful e-book, discover how to embrace God’s G.I.F.T. framework for sexual intimacy and see it as a meaningful blessing for husbands and wives.
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DISCLAIMER:
This podcast is designed for informational purposes only. Any and all actions or consequences from the podcast are the sole responsibility of the podcast audience participant. Information should not be seen as medical or mental health advice, and is not meant to take the place of seeing licensed health professionals.
Special thanks to Suzanna Storey of Saphron Music for “Shape Shifter”, on her Identity Crisis album.
Tuesday Nov 18, 2025
Tuesday Nov 18, 2025
📖Welcome back to The Sexual Wholeness Revival! In this episode, we’re tackling a question that might make you blush or even roll your eyes: What’s good about sex?
Too often, sex is reduced to pleasure, performance, or even selfish pursuit. But God’s design for sexual intimacy is far richer. It’s a gift that connects spouses in spirit, soul, and body, creating deeper emotional, physical, and spiritual oneness.
We’ll unpack how different generations view sex, how cultural and shame-based messages distort intimacy, and practical ways to reclaim joy, connection, and fulfillment in your married sex life.
✨ 5 Takeaways From This Episode:
- Discover why sex is good and how God’s design provides a deep connection in spirit, soul, and body, over and above the rejuvenating physical pleasure.
- Hear how cultural messages and church teachings distort intimacy and learn a God-centered perspective that restores mutual fulfillment and joy.
- Learn how embracing God’s design for sexual wholeness meets the “I want to be truly known” place, that often is inadequately filled by the false substitute for intimacy- pornography.
- Get practical insight on shifting from self-focused pleasure to whole-person intimacy that respects and satisfies both partners.
- Leave with actionable steps to pursue true sexual intimacy and a free resource, God’s Gift to Marriage, to guide your journey.
00:00 Introduction to the Hosts and Podcast01:01 What's Good About Sex?01:52 Personal Stories and Cultural Narratives03:49 Shame and Purity Culture05:32 The Role of Intimacy and Connection09:13 Trust and Emotional Connection15:25 God's Design for Sexual Intimacy24:45 Conclusion and Resources
📚 Free Resource:
Go deeper with your spouse by grabbing your free e-book: God’s Gift to Marriage. This guide walks you through experiencing intimacy that is Good, Intimate, Fierce, Timeless, and Sacred (GIFTS)—helping you rediscover the richness of God’s original design for sexual intimacy in marriage.
Thanks for joining us on this journey toward sexual wholeness in marriage. Until next time, let’s bring back wholeness; intimacy the way God intended!
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Special thanks to Suzanna Storey of Saphron Music for “Shape Shifter”, on her Identity Crisis album.